ENH: avoid prior communication when using mapDistribute

- in most cases can simply construct mapDistribute with the sendMap
  and have it take care of communication and addressing for the
  corresponding constructMap.

  This removes code duplication, which in some cases was also using
  much less efficient mechanisms (eg, combineReduce on list of
  lists, or an allGatherList on the send sizes etc) and also
  reduces the number of places where Pstream::exchange/exchangeSizes
  is being called.

ENH: reduce communication in turbulentDFSEMInlet

- was doing an allGatherList to populate a mapDistribute.
  Now simply use PstreamBuffers mechanisms directly.